My Overactive Head

I had a question on my mind today. What does it mean when a guy notices that you are not somewhere you used to be? The story behind this is that I was at church on Sunday and someone came up to me and mentioned that they had gone to the youth service on Friday and noticed that I wasn't there. Suddenly, as many girls do, my head went to the idea that he must have been looking for me there, or he wouldn't have noticed that I wasn't there... and then that thought leads to many other misleading thoughts. 

The truth of the matter is... there probably was nothing to it at all. I think I'm often quite loud and so people know when I'm around, and when he was last at youth I was still going every week, so it would have been easy for him to simply notice that I wasn't there without actually looking for me. 

So I'm not sure any of that really made sense to anyone but me but hopefully you get the idea. 

As women we often allow our minds to go places they do not need to go. We over think situations, and we read into things more than we should. I know I am terrible for this, I often think more of things than I should. This can often become a problem though. As Christians, we are told to love and encourage one another, but due to my overactive and over thoughtful mind, I worry that if I say something to a guy to encourage them, that I'm going to give him the wrong idea... so I don't. But a guy who's mind does not work the same way as mine will most probably just see it as simple encouragement. 

How do we solve this? Well I don't think it's a quick fix, nothing really ever is. But I think we just need to trust God. If he tells us to encourage fellow believers we should do it, there's no need to hold back. If you do think that someone has taken something the wrong way, you just need to simply ask God how to deal with the situation correctly and He will help you. 

Then there's the times where guys will come and encourage me, or give me a compliment. Again, it's important not to let my mind take me away from the encouragement and start thinking of the "reason" behind it. It's often simply encouragement and I should focus on what it is they are saying not try and discover why they say it. 

So that's just some random thoughts really 

Thankful for: Humour

I've had a bit of a tough few days after receiving some shocking news, and sometimes the smallest bit of humour can just put you in that happy, joyful place you want to be in.